The Big C Word... Commitment

          Ahh the big C word... Commitment. The word that so many people run from. I was asked on Facebook: Why are young men scared of commitment? Friendship vs. Relationship This one was a hard one for me because I also asked my self this plenty of times. Why because it's the same story:

I like you.

I like you too.

 We should date.

 Maybe we should just be friends and see where it goes.

And then it goes from being friends to friends with benefits. And then they find another girl to be with and your stuck wondering what the hell is wrong with you. Right?

 Well why are men afraid of commitment and ladies let’s be honest why can’t we commit. Well looking online and at my passed relationships it all comes done to one word. FEAR. I wonder if I hit a nerve with that? I hope so. Take your time and think… Revaluate your past relationships. Ladies why did you begin to start questioning his loyalty or why you searched through the reasons why you shouldn’t be with him. Did you ever think why do I continue you to push him away? This all comes back to that same word again right… Fear. Women are afraid of getting hurt. Why wouldn’t we? Men cheat. Men lie. Women get hurt. So yes women then fear commitment. So how did this become about women when the question was about men. I’m a fair critique.

Women tend to assume that because men have so much pride and because they are supposed to be designed to be strong that there is a word that is not in their vocabulary… Fear. Ahh it all ties together men find it hard to commit for the same reason why women start to push men away when things get to deep.  

Fear. Defined as an unpleasant emotion caused by disbelief that something or someone is dangerous, likely to cause pain or a threat. Should I break it down a tad bit? Fear is defined as an unpleasant emotion caused by disbelief that someone is dangerous likely to cause pain. Should I go further? Fear is a men falling in love with a women that can be dangerous because they are likely to cause pain. Now will men admit this? No. Can I myself admit that I am scared to fall in love? No. Sometime I can’t. Why because I have been hurt. What people should remember is that everything they experience in life good or bad leaves an emotional scar.

Men and women both have pride and both get hurt in relationships. So I can’t just write a blog saying men are afraid of commitment because of this and that when personally women are just as afraid. Why because women and men fear the one thing they cannot control… each other. To be honest I can break down exactly why commitment is a fear of mine. Growing up as a little girl the men in your life set the pavement of the path you begin to follow when you begin choosing then men in your life. I believe I had great men to look up to. I had a hard working granddad that definitely would give me the world if he could. He died when I was Seven. Then there was my dad him and my mom were not a couple but I saw him a lot I spent time with me. He took me to my first dance. He died when I was Thirteen.  I fear the uncertainty of life. Thus if I fall in love with him we date, have kids, get married will he die early on. I was raised the only child of a single mother and my one wish is to live with my husband and kids for a very long time. But I can’t control that, so what to do? My advice is to live life. You’re going to get hurt once or twice if we continue to fear the unknown…love or Commitment. Will we really find happiness that way? I don’t think so. So why are young men scared of commitment? The question was answered when it was asked… fear. Have something to add don’t be afraid to comment. Why do you think that men are scared to commit? Or if you have a topic I can cover let me know.